How To Stay Strong And Overcome Challenges When You Feel Like Giving Up

The darker the night, the brighter the stars. The deeper the grief, the closer is God.” Said Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Many who became great or are enjoying life today had one time or the other in the past experienced challenges even more severe than what you may be facing today. But in the midst of their great challenges, they stayed unperturbed, refusing to lose hope, and eventually, they overcame.

What is their secret then? How were they able to scale through even when they felt like giving up? This is what you’re going to learn in this article. It is important that you learn this because it is only those who refuse to give up during the night hours that enjoy the joy that the morning brings when it finally comes. If it is your desire to experience the joy of the morning, then you’ve got to learn how not to give up while the night lasts.

Have you got some life challenges and feeling fed up having done all you could? Are you beginning to think God is no more faithful to his promises? Are you losing hope in God’s ability to see you through that heart-breaking situation? Then, don’t sweat it. I believe reading this article will greatly help you find some strength to keep standing strong when you feel like throwing in the towel. This article is over 2500 words long. So I encourage you that you relax while you read it. In case you are unable to finish it for want of time, then bookmark or save it so you can easily return to it later.

Now, let’s dive in.

You may never appreciate and enjoy the brightness of light when there is no darkness thick enough to show it. Again, the stronger the heat of the furnace, the brighter the gold.

Consider the followings:

  • How can you know the Lord is a healer when you’ve never been sick?
  • How can you prove there is no friend like Jesus when you’ve never be disappointed and deserted by those you trusted?
  • How can you know the Lord is a provider when you’ve not at one time or the other been in need?
  • How can you know the Lord is a lifter and promoter when you’ve not been let down by life unfavourable circumstances?
  • How can you know that God can do the impossible when nothing in your life appears to be impossible?

I don’t know who is reading this right now. I don’t know the problem or the issue you’re facing in your life. I want to say to you that you should stop wailing and feeling discouraged or disappointed. Stop thinking that there is no way out anymore, especially when you have done your best as a human being and stood your ground to keep your obedience to the instructions of God. The good Lord is aware of your condition, and in due season, he will step in and save you.

You know what? As long as we are in this world, problems are inevitable. They are part and parcel of life. As a matter of fact, it is problems that prove our worth. What fire is to gold is what problems or challenges are to us, humans. Just as fire brings out the beauty of gold, so the painful challenges of life bring out the best in us. So we need not give up when we are being tossed to and fro by the terrific storm on the sea of life.

You’re not alone; you can overcome

Beloved, whatever trouble we face, be it in health, marriage, family, academics, job, finance, relationship, business, just name it, we are not alone, and not the first to face it. Are you thinking you are alone and can’t overcome? See Incredibly Successful People Who Overcame Adversity.

Like I earlier said, many who became great or are enjoying life today had one time or the other in the past experienced challenges even more severe than our current problem. In the midst of their challenges, they stayed unperturbed, refusing to lose hope. What was their source of strength? They remained hopeful even when their situations became hopeless. They believed that no matter how long the night delays, the morning was sure. Like King David, they said to themselves, “Although weeping may endure in the night, joy will come in the morning.” Like Job who lost everything in a twinkling of an eye, they continued to say, “I know my Redeemer lives. I will wait till my appointed time comes.” Their courage and faith in the unfailing promises of God held them from giving up on life. Like the three Hebrew young men, they never saw God as unfaithful. They concluded that whether God saved them from the burning furnace or not, they would never compromise their stand in the Lord. And in the rear end, their mourning was turned into morning. Their season of tears and sorrow became the season of laughter and joy. This was because they endured to the end.

What is your challenge? I encourage you, don’t get discouraged. You may not be able to hold back your tears, but be sure that your tears do not blind you from seeing the true way that leads to lasting happiness. No matter what, let your eyes remain clear, focusing on the God whose promises and power never fail.

Let me show you some passages from the Holy Scripture.

  • Psalm 50:15, GNT: Here, God said, “Call to me when trouble comes; I will save you, and you will praise me.”
  • Isaiah 43:2, GNT: Again, the Lord said, “When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned; the hard trials that come will not hurt you.”
  • John 16:33, TLB: Encouraging his disciples, Jesus said, “I have told you all this so that you will have peace of heart and mind. Here on earth, you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up, for I have overcome the world.”

As you can see from the above three Bible portions, we are bound to encounter problems at one point or the other as we journey through this temporary world. In other words, challenges are inevitable and a crucial part of any success journey.

The Lord has assured that no matter how strong the trial (challenge) is, it will not stop us from achieving our dreams because he will surely come and save us. But here lies an issue, and the issue is…

Do you know it?

It’s waiting on the Lord to arise and vindicate us. Yes; we humans tend to lose hope too quickly. We don’t want to wait. We want to see it done now, now and now. We think that God’s timing is taking too long.

For how long will I wait?

This may be your question. Yes, you may have actually waited for so long; hoping that it will be better, or it will be over, but the more you wait, the worse situation becomes, or farther the journey gets. And now, you are losing all hope that the job, the healing, the life partner, the contract, school admission, etc. will no longer come. If I may ask you? How many years have you really waited? No, seriously. You can stop reading first so that you count the number of years you have waited on God to meet that need in your life. Now, how many years did you count? 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 15 years or 20 years?

Truly, you have tried, even if it’s only 2 years because not many could be as patient as you have done. But although you have waited for this period of time, you still need to keep holding on. Do you remember father Abraham, the father of Isaac? How many years did he wait for Isaac to come after God promised to make him a great nation? In case you don’t know or have forgotten, Abraham waited for good 25 years. He was 75 years old when God first promised he would make him the father of all nations and Isaac was finally born when he was 100 years old (Genesis 12:2-4; 21:5).

To enjoy God’s promises, you must understand his timing. Know that our calendar is different from God’s calendar; we don’t operate using the same time schedule. So when he says he will do something for us, we may not have it at the time we expect it. That is the bad news so to speak, but the good news is that, at his right time, he will surely fulfill his promise because he is not a man who lies (Numbers 23:19). The challenge is in the waiting. I encourage you to leave all your worries with God by waiting till he finally answers because it is only the person who endures to the end that will be saved. It will not be long, soon it will be done for you. Stop looking at your own time. God’s timing is the best.

You can read 4 reasons God’s timing is best

Don’t listen to the voice of the devil

Who or what you listen to, you tend to obey and follow. I want to make this clear to you. We are most vulnerable to Satan’s strategies during hard times; when we are experiencing difficulties. Satan himself knows this so he tries all he can to use this period to attack God’s children. But as God’s children, we are to be wiser than him such that whenever he comes, we will not give him the chance to rule over us.

Like I said, it’s when you’re in pain that you are more likely to fall into temptation. Now, you have to be careful. Never allow your situation to weaken your trust and faith in God. Of course, Satan knowing that you’re facing tough times, will come and suggest to you and try to convince you to follow his suggestions. Do not let the devil use your pain or challenge as an advantage to convince or deceive you.  You must stay strong, fight against him until you put him to flight.

Maybe you’re a single youth, spinster especially, who has been keeping her vow to remain chaste until marriage. You have waited for years and no responsible man is coming. Anyone that comes always tells you that before the relationship can work out, you must first sleep sexually with him. During this time, Satan may come to you and say something like:

  • “You’re getting old – you’re now approaching 40 years. A woman’s time is short. If you wait further, you may not be able to marry again.”
  • “Since you will eventually marry him, it is not wrong to have sex with him.”

Remember, when you begin to hear words like this, know that it is Satan the deceiver that is speaking. Don’t listen to him. Rebuke him as Jesus did to him.

Maybe you’re a student who has been struggling to pass an examination. You have spent years seeking for an admission into the higher institution such as university but to no avail. Satan will come and begin to say to you,

  • “You have waited for too long. All your mates are now graduates.”
  • If you rely on your own effort, you will never make it. Just do the exam malpractice and that settles it.”

When things like these start ringing in your heart, know that Satan is at work. You must not listen to him. Rebuke him!

Maybe you’re currently in dire financial need. You just lost your job and all streams of income are closed. Now you need to feed, pay some bills, and meet other needs but no way. Satan will come and say to you:

  • “This is an opportunity, take that money in your possession which does not belong to you. Nobody will know about it.”
  • Cheat him/her. Say it is the amount you bought the things, and you will get more money.”

Maybe you’re having a health challenge, or an issue of sterility (inability to give birth), and have done everything medically possible but no positive fruit. Be aware, Satan will come and make suggestions that:

  • You visit false prophets, witch-doctors, or even go as far as consulting the spirits of the dead to seek for solution.

Know that those who seek for solution to their problems in any of these places add to their problems. Satan wants to worsen your situation; so please, ignore his voice. Refuse to obey him and keep trusting God, the great healer for total healing and solution.

How Satan Attacks

Mind you, Satan, the great liar is not going to come to you physically to show you any of the above directions. He knows if he appears physically with his ugly head, no one will listen to him. So he goes about in different forms.

First, he speaks to you in your heart. Whenever you find yourself thinking of any of the above negative ways of getting a solution to problems, know that Satan is the one talking to you.

Second, he uses people: Here, he comes to you in the body of people, especially those close to you – family members, friends, colleagues, etc. to speak to you. Using one of the above cases as an example: Say, you have faced series of disappointments in relationships because of your decision to keep away from pre-marital sex with partners. A very close friend may come and tell you that you go ahead to satisfy the desire of your boyfriend who wants sex before committing. In actual sense, it is not your friend that is saying this to you, but Satan, the destroyer of lives. So never yield. When anybody comes to give you wrong advice, tell them you’re a child of God and God will never forsake his own. If they keep pestering you, rebuke them seriously and keep away from such people.

Wrapping it up

In conclusion, I want to say to you that when going through challenges, especially when they are very tough, realize that God is near to make things better. In the words of Andrew Horton, Challenges are improvement markers. Don’t forget the words of King David that, weeping may last through the night but joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5). The night may really look too long or hard to bear, but no matter how long or thick it is, the morning is certain. And if you give up (compromise your trust in God and follow the devil’s advice) during the night hours, you will miss the morning joy.

Do you want to celebrate the morning joy? That healing, financial, academic, marital, health, or other breakthroughs? Then, be strong and courageous in the midst of your pains, disappointments, and overwhelming challenge. Remember the quote at the beginning of this article, “The darker the night, the brighter the stars. The deeper the grief, the closer is God.”  Soon, it will be over. Where all human help has failed, let the joy of the Lord be your strength, and certainly, you will overcome.

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God bless you.

Be a happy better you; Live a happy better life.

Author: Oghovemu Okpu

I’m a writer and founder of Happy Better You (HBY); a personal development platform where I help you with the tips, resources and inspiration you need to become a happy better version of yourself so that you can live the happy better life you were created to fulfill.
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